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So, I just relapsed…

So, I just relapsed…

Recovering from an addiction is difficult. One of the most difficult aspects of addiction recovery is the seeming inevitability of slips and relapses. Loss of sobriety does not necessitate losing your hope that lasting change can take place. What if our slips and relapses could provide something for us? We may be powerless to our addictions, but we are not helpless nor hopeless.  Continue reading So, I just relapsed…

Boundaries with My Husband

Boundaries with My Husband

Over 10 years ago I learned of my husband’s addiction to porn and sex.  I had no idea this was something he was struggling with.  Obviously, this completely devastated me and left me feeling like everything in my life was completely out of control.  As we started seeing a therapist and I joined a support group, I was introduced to the concept of boundaries.  I really had no idea what it meant to set boundaries and initially it sounded pretty selfish.

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Emotions and The Feeling Wheel

Emotions and The Feeling Wheel

A question I ask (and get asked) a lot is, “How are you feeling?” I remember once when I asked this question to a guy that we will call Zach. After he completed a lengthy Step 4 inventory, I asked, “Zach, how do you feel?” He said, “I feel fine. To be honest, I’ve always been an easy-going person. I don’t get emotional often. I certainly never cry.” I could barely gather my thoughts when he said this. It was as if somebody brought out a mirror, stuck it in my face and said, “Sound familiar, Clark?”

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Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 3 – What Life is Like Now

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 2 – The Road to Recovery

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 1 – What Life Was Like

What Makes Something Better…

What Makes Something Better…

“People don’t need just sympathy, and shaming never helped anyone. However, empathy is the full embodiment of truth and compassion, and helps heal hurting hearts.”

-Mike Foster, People of the Second Chance

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Going to Jesus with My Desires (Jane DoE)

Going to Jesus with My Desires (Jane DoE)

I am literally sitting here, in front of my computer, trying to get every last bit of freshly baked muffin off of the wrapper while I sip my coffee and try to put into words the frustration, anger, sadness and hopelessness it is to be me right now.

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The Keys to the Candy Store, Part 2

The Keys to the Candy Store, Part 2

In our last post we began looking at the unintentional damage that takes place in many pastors’ offices, when wives of porn/sex addicts are encouraged that their husbands’ problems might get better if only they were more sexually available. The first two things ministry leaders who counsel couples need to understand about sexual addiction are:

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It’s The Most Triggering Time of the Year

It’s The Most Triggering Time of the Year

Christmas is a great time of the year. In fact, some might say (or sing) that it’s the most wonderful time of the year. You know, jingle-belling, mistle-toeing, etc. It’s great. Continue reading It’s The Most Triggering Time of the Year