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The Keys to the Candy Store, Part 2

In our last post we began looking at the unintentional damage that takes place in many pastors’ offices, when wives of porn/sex addicts are encouraged that their husbands’ problems might get better if only they were more sexually available. The first two things ministry leaders who counsel couples need to understand about sexual addiction are:

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Safe People – Jane DoE

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I am a thirty year old, single female who is recovering from sex addiction.

In the summer of 2014, I betrayed the man I loved. To put it in counseling terms, I was “acting out.” In Christian circles, we call it sin. My sin was repeated. And confessed. And it took a lot of work to heal from that sin. Continue reading Safe People – Jane DoE

My name is Jane DoE…

First, before I share my story, let me share the inspiration for my name. I have thought long and hard of how to blog with anonymity as a woman recovering from sex addiction. I wanted my nom de plume to have substance. I chose Jane DoE. Continue reading My name is Jane DoE…

I Don’t Know What To Do…

Everyone in the small group just sat there. The awkward silence hung heavy in the room, like a heavy stage curtain that had just lowered onto everyone sitting in the circle. The bombshell had been dropped just a few seconds ago, but with each ticking second of silence it seemed like years. Continue reading I Don’t Know What To Do…

Seven Years Ago…

January 6th, 2009 began like most Tuesdays. I got up and went into work, at the church where I served as Worship Pastor. Unlike most Tuesdays, our regular pastoral staff meeting had been cancelled. Continue reading Seven Years Ago…

There is Beauty in the Breaking

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been talking about something and have eventually said, “There’s this Nichole Nordeman song that says this SO much better than I could…” Continue reading There is Beauty in the Breaking