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So, I just relapsed…

Recovering from an addiction is difficult. One of the most difficult aspects of addiction recovery is the seeming inevitability of slips and relapses. Loss of sobriety does not necessitate losing your hope that lasting change can take place. What if our slips and relapses could provide something for us? We may be powerless to our addictions, but we are not helpless nor hopeless.  Continue reading So, I just relapsed…

Emotions and The Feeling Wheel

A question I ask (and get asked) a lot is, “How are you feeling?” I remember once when I asked this question to a guy that we will call Zach. After he completed a lengthy Step 4 inventory, I asked, “Zach, how do you feel?” He said, “I feel fine. To be honest, I’ve always been an easy-going person. I don’t get emotional often. I certainly never cry.” I could barely gather my thoughts when he said this. It was as if somebody brought out a mirror, stuck it in my face and said, “Sound familiar, Clark?”

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Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 3 – What Life is Like Now

As this is published (in the Fall of 2018), my husband and I have been in recovery for over a year now. If you had told me then what my life would look like today, I wouldn’t have believed you. Continue reading Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 3 – What Life is Like Now

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 2 – The Road to Recovery

The sickening reality of betrayal can feel hopeless. After years of living in fear and anxiety, connected to my husband’s addiction, I became exhausted. I just couldn’t do it anymore.

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Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 1 – What Life Was Like

What happened with my husband’s addiction was painful, hard, and unfair. My story may look and sound different than another person’s—circumstances can vary slightly or drastically. Continue reading Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 1 – What Life Was Like

Going to Jesus with My Desires (Jane DoE)

I am literally sitting here, in front of my computer, trying to get every last bit of freshly baked muffin off of the wrapper while I sip my coffee and try to put into words the frustration, anger, sadness and hopelessness it is to be me right now.

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The Keys to the Candy Store, Part 2

In our last post we began looking at the unintentional damage that takes place in many pastors’ offices, when wives of porn/sex addicts are encouraged that their husbands’ problems might get better if only they were more sexually available. The first two things ministry leaders who counsel couples need to understand about sexual addiction are:

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It’s The Most Triggering Time of the Year

Christmas is a great time of the year. In fact, some might say (or sing) that it’s the most wonderful time of the year. You know, jingle-belling, mistle-toeing, etc. It’s great. Continue reading It’s The Most Triggering Time of the Year

From Chaos to Serenity

“God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

How many times have we heard these words? Whether on TV or in a movie, or spoken by a friend or loved one in recovery, or even as we’ve said them ourselves. Continue reading From Chaos to Serenity