I’ve found out about my spouse’s porn/sex problem.
“How could this have happened?”
“What did I do to drive him to this?”
“I feel like I can’t breathe. This is too much.”
“Should I get a divorce?”
“I don’t know if I can ever get over this.”
“How am I just going to get through today?”
We’re so sorry for what you’re going through. One of the most difficult experiences anyone can ever go through is the discovery that your spouse has betrayed you. You probably have a thousand questions. Why did this happen? How could I not have known? What am I supposed to do now? What could I have done differently to prevent this? What’s wrong with me?
Although there’s no easy way to get through what has happened, what we want you to know right off the bat is this. It’s not your fault, you could not have prevented this, and things won’t always feel like they do now. The roots of your spouse’s problem with porn and/or misuse of sex go deep and likely preceded your relationship. Your spouse needs to seek help, but you need help as well. The experience of betrayal is incredibly difficult to move beyond, and even more so if you try to do it alone.
The greatest need you have right now is for God to work healing and grace in your broken heart. Even though your situation may make you feel like God is far away, He is here and wants to provide you with the healing you need.
How We Can Help With Healing:
There are real and tangible ways in which God works this healing. These include counseling and finding safe, supportive community. If you are in the Birmingham, Alabama area we can help you connect with both. We offer support group community and have relationships with many excellent therapists who are specifically equipped to help you process what has happened. If you are not in our area, we can still help identify people near where you live who can help you.
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“Finding healing, hope, forgiveness and restoration after the betrayal of my spouse seemed like an impossibility – an unrealistic expectation. And, by myself, it would’ve been. Thankfully, with God’s unfailing love and strength as well as the support and fellowship from Stacey Oliver and Awaken recovery ministry, my marriage is healthier than before I learned about the betrayal.
Facing the difficult topics of infidelity and addiction isn’t something that Greg and Stacey shy away from. God has gifted both of them to come alongside & support those of us who are hurting and suffering from the consequences of sexual sin. Awaken is deeply rooted in the word of God as the ultimate guideline for marriage.
It is through the God-blessed community and support of Awaken Recovery that my marriage has hope for today. I am eternally grateful for their love and support! I pray that the Lord will continue to provide for, protect and project their ministry to all in need of help! Take the risk and reach out for help today!”
Awaken Women’s Group attendee