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I’m not going to lie…late Fall and early Winter is a tough time of year for me. Some of it has to do with how overcast the sky is during the winter. Some of it has to do with the time change and getting dark at 5 pm. Some of it has to do with […]
At the time I’m writing this post, everybody is talking about Kanye West. He’s just released his “Jesus is King” record and he’s speaking out about life, faith, God, and people are going nuts. Saturday Night Live is making fun of him, and many Christians are defending him. What is this world we’re living in? […]
Recovering from an addiction is difficult. One of the most difficult aspects of addiction recovery is the seeming inevitability of slips and relapses. Loss of sobriety does not necessitate losing your hope that lasting change can take place. What if our slips and relapses could provide something for us? We may be powerless to our […]
Over 10 years ago I learned of my husband’s addiction to porn and sex. I had no idea this was something he was struggling with. Obviously, this completely devastated me and left me feeling like everything in my life was completely out of control. As we started seeing a therapist and I joined a support […]
A question I ask (and get asked) a lot is, “How are you feeling?” I remember once when I asked this question to a guy that we will call Zach. After he completed a lengthy Step 4 inventory, I asked, “Zach, how do you feel?” He said, “I feel fine. To be honest, I’ve always […]
As this is published (in the Fall of 2018), my husband and I have been in recovery for over a year now. If you had told me then what my life would look like today, I wouldn’t have believed you.
The sickening reality of betrayal can feel hopeless. After years of living in fear and anxiety, connected to my husband’s addiction, I became exhausted. I just couldn’t do it anymore.
What happened with my husband’s addiction was painful, hard, and unfair. My story may look and sound different than another person’s—circumstances can vary slightly or drastically.
“People don’t need just sympathy, and shaming never helped anyone. However, empathy is the full embodiment of truth and compassion, and helps heal hurting hearts.” -Mike Foster, People of the Second Chance
I am literally sitting here, in front of my computer, trying to get every last bit of freshly baked muffin off of the wrapper while I sip my coffee and try to put into words the frustration, anger, sadness and hopelessness it is to be me right now.
In our last post we began looking at the unintentional damage that takes place in many pastors’ offices, when wives of porn/sex addicts are encouraged that their husbands’ problems might get better if only they were more sexually available. The first two things ministry leaders who counsel couples need to understand about sexual addiction are:
Pastors, please stop telling wives of porn/sex addicts to have more sex with their husbands. Wait…what?