Helping Isn’t Easy (or Simple), part 4

This is the third in a series of posts on helping people through sexual brokenness. CLICK HERE to read Part 1. CLICK HERE to read Part 2. CLICK HERE to read Part 3. In this series of posts, we’ve sought to give needed context to people who provide help and counsel to men and women...

Helping Isn’t Easy (or Simple), part 3

This is the third in a series of posts on helping people through sexual brokenness. CLICK HERE to read Part 1. CLICK HERE to read Part 2. In this series of posts, we’re talking about the difficulty of leaders helping people navigate through sexual brokenness. In Part 2, we talked about the important realization that...

Helping Isn’t Easy (or Simple), part 2

This is the second in a series of posts on helping people through sexual brokenness. CLICK HERE to read Part 1. In the last post, I talked about how helping sexually broken people is a blessing and privilege, AND that it’s an extraordinarily hard thing to do. The situations that lead to sexual brokenness in...

Helping Isn’t Easy (or Simple), part 1

These next few posts are specifically written with pastors, church leaders, and other caring/helping professionals in mind. They are for anyone who takes on the role of helping and walking with people in their brokenness. I believe one of the greatest privileges pastors and other leaders/helpers have is the opportunity to help people in their...

Kindness

“I’m tired, boss. Tired of bein’ on the road, lonely as a sparrow in the rain. Tired of not ever having me a buddy to be with, or tell me where we’s coming from or going to, or why. Mostly I’m tired of people being ugly to each other. I’m tired of all the pain...

An Open Letter to Sexually Broken People

At the time this post is written (February 2021), we are about two weeks post-release of the report on Ravi Zacharias’ sexual abuse. The revelation of new and heartbreaking information about what was going on in Ravi’s life has Christians...

Sin, Secrets, and Sexual Abuse…How Do We Respond? (part 3)

This is Part Three of a post. In Parts One & Two I wrote about the recent report on Ravi Zacharias’ sexual misconduct/abuse. To read Part One first, CLICK HERE. To read Part Two, CLICK HERE. Wrapping up my thoughts on the Ravi Zacharias report, one more tweet from Samuel James is pertinent and well-put:...

Sin, Secrets, and Sexual Abuse…How Do We Respond? (part 2)

This is Part Two of a post. In Part One of my post I wrote about the recent report on Ravi Zacharias’ sexual misconduct/abuse. To read Part One first, CLICK HERE. The second extreme Samuel encourages us to avoid (in his tweet) is: “We’re all one step away from being him.” Other ways I’ve heard...

Sin, Secrets, and Sexual Abuse…How Do We Respond? (part 1)

Ever since when, in the Fall of 2020, the story emerged that Ravi Zacharias had been accused of sexual misconduct, I’ve thought and grieved about it a lot. When the full report commissioned by RZIM (Ravi Zacharias International Ministries) was released on February 11, 2021, the truth about what Ravi had done was much more...

Perspective

Sitting in the worship service with my church yesterday, I had a realization. It was during the pastor’s sermon. He was making a point about how no matter what sin or error a believer has committed, we have a Savior who understand, advocates, made provision, and gives grace. This is the passage he quoted, from...

Step Nine

“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others”   Step 9 is the part of our journey where we try – to the best of our ability – to clean up the messes that we have made. In this step we make amends to those...

Step Eight

“Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all” If you weren’t a list-maker before you came into recovery, you probably will be by the time you’re through the 12 steps. There are a lot of lists made in this process – we list resentments, fears,...