Step One

Step One

We’re excited to begin to feature regular blog posts from a member of Awaken’s men’s recovery community. Our hope is that his posts will encourage and inspire you to believe recovery is possible, and to pursue it every day. “We admitted that we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior – that our lives had become…

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 3 – What Life is Like Now

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 3 – What Life is Like Now

As this is published (in the Fall of 2018), my husband and I have been in recovery for over a year now. If you had told me then what my life would look like today, I wouldn’t have believed you. For us, recovery is not merely a checklist of things to do, but instead has…

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 2 – The Road to Recovery

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 2 – The Road to Recovery

The sickening reality of betrayal can feel hopeless. After years of living in fear and anxiety, connected to my husband’s addiction, I became exhausted. I just couldn’t do it anymore. The very last time I discovered that my husband had acted out and lied about it, I felt completely defeated. I could no longer stay…

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 1 – What Life Was Like

Recovery: A Spouse’s Experience, part 1 – What Life Was Like

What happened with my husband’s addiction was painful, hard, and unfair. My story may look and sound different than another person’s—circumstances can vary slightly or drastically.But the shock and nauseating shared reality of betrayal is buried in our hearts just the same. No matter how it manifests, the hurt is similar in each one who…

The Keys to the Candy Store, Part 2

The Keys to the Candy Store, Part 2

In our last post we began looking at the unintentional damage that takes place in many pastors’ offices, when wives of porn/sex addicts are encouraged that their husbands’ problems might get better if only they were more sexually available. The first two things ministry leaders who counsel couples need to understand about sexual addiction are:…